Self Improvement plan personal development
I strongly believe that developing oneself is one of the best actions a person can take and that self-improvement ultimately leads to more achievements and happiness in one’s life than anything else.
However, I also realized quickly that it’s not enough to randomly read self-improvement books and apply from them whatever sound cool to you, whenever you can remember and you feel like it. Effective self-improvement requires some deliberate and careful planning.
I want to show you, drawing from my own experience, how to create a good self-improvement plan, which you can use to see the most fruitful results in your self-growth.
1. Start by Recognizing the Limits
Like it or not, you can’t achieve meaningful changes overnight.
I say this because, as a coach, a common mistake I notice people making is assuming that in just a couple of months they will be able to completely transform themselves.
Unfortunately, it’s not that simple. Developing any skill or attitude entails creating new mental associations in your brain and overriding some of the old ones. And this requires practice, time and repetition.
It’s not my intention here to discourage you from seeking self-growth. But I do wanna aid you set bold but realistic expectations on this path.
Usually, it takes a few months to develop a key skill or attitude. For example, I often work with people who are and I help them build social confidence. And these people see amazing progress, but it generally happens in 6 to 12 months. That’s how much time it takes to move from awkward to confident socially.
The more aspects you want to improve about yourself, the more time it will take. If you have a list of 6 or 7 important changes you want to make about yourself, making these changes will likely span over a few years.
With this realistic expectation in your mind, you can move to the next logical step…
2. Prioritize Your Growth
Since you can only change so much about you in a given period of time and your time is limited, it’s crucial to select the most important skills and attitudes to develop and work on them first, and only then move to other ones.
This means you’ll have to really think about the most meaningful changes you could make about yourself.
I often like to ask my coaching clients: “If you could only change one thing about you, what would it be?”