Dark NLP seduction patterns
NLP, or Neuro-Linguistic Programming' was founded in the early 1970’s by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. The two men studied three different master therapists and, using what they observed, created a system that helped practitioners become aware of the commonalities found in human interactions. NLP essentially helps organize the complex patterns inherent in human communication. So, naturally, it has become a large part of the seduction community.
Neuro-Linguistic Programming has always had a deep-rooted connection with the social arts. Many gurus make outrageous claims about its power while other gurus ignore it completely. The question is, does NLP work and what is its real value in the art of pickup?
For the most part, the term NLP has been misused in the seduction community. The original intention of NLP was as a tool for therapists to help them communicate with patients. Generally it’s confused with hypnotism, when in actuality it is a method for effectively conveying thoughts and emotions with someone; in other words, creating a shared perception of reality.
NLP’s greatest asset to a pickup artist is its comfort-building technology. Building comfort is a lot like being a therapist, in that you’re trying to create an atmosphere where she feels safe enough to share personal stories with you. However, unlike a therapist, you will be sharing your stories with her in an effort to build a strong emotional connection.
If you were to sit down and describe a scenario to someone, how would you describe it? Most people would talk about the sights, sounds, and feelings associated with the scenario they were describing. These senses used to describe the situation are representational systems. Each person has a primary, secondary, and tertiary representational system that they use to communicate. Someone whose primary modality is sight will use visual words to describe a situation. They will use phrases such as, “I see what you mean.” Or, “I’m looking into it.” While people whose primary modality is sound will use phrases like, “I hear you.” Or, “That rings a bell.” Many therapists who use NLP in therapy claim that communication between two people who are of the same modality will be much stronger; the two will more easily understand each other. Conversely, if they have differing primary modalities, like visual and emotional, then it will be much harder to understand each other.
Learning to effectively use modalities can help the aspiring social artist communicate with a woman while building comfort or attempting a seduction. The key is to listen to the words she uses when telling a story and decide whether they are based on sight, sound, or emotion. Once you decide which representational system they use most, respond in the same modality. With practice, the seducer should notice that the target' is much more responsive to everything being said.